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We all have moments in our life that make us ‘take stock’…that make us reflect on the past, and question our future.

For some, this is called a “mid-life crisis”.  But I think that’s a terrible way to look at it.

There doesn’t need to be a ‘crisis’.  Reflection can be a powerful tool, giving us the opportunity to better chart the course, between the person we are and the person we know that we can ultimately be.

There are so many resources and voices out there, eager to help us live our best life.  I’ve found that these messages can be quite similar, depending on the source.  But what’s most important, is finding that voice that speaks to YOU.

This blog is part of my accountability process.  Writing helps me to stick to rituals and routines that bring me closer to my potential.

I’d like to share some of my perspectives, with you.  And by doing so, perhaps MY voice, can be one that helps you on YOUR journey.  Thanks for reading this.  Learn a bit more below…

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Forget the “Crisis”

 

The “Mid-Life Crisis”…almost as ‘American’ as baseball and apple pie.  At this point, visions of middle aged men driving new sports cars, dying their hair and buying a pair of those butt-stitched jeans, have become cultural cliches.

Here’s what Wikipedia has to say about it:  The phenomenon is described as a psychological crisis brought about by events that highlight a person’s growing age, inevitable mortality, and possibly shortcomings of accomplishments in life. 

Freudian in origin (of course), research suggests that a mid-life crisis typically occurs between the ages of 45-64, and lasts 2-5 years for women, and a stiff 3-10 years for men.  Most popular culture references, in fact, are specifically aimed at men.

 

Here are my problems with the “mid-life crisis”:

  • I don’t think there’s a designated age, or even age range, where people necessarily start to seriously reflect on their life
  • I don’t think men are more apt to enter a stage like this, than are women
  • I think “crisis” is the absolute worst word that we could be using to describe this ‘phenomenon’

Here’s what I believe to be true:

  • Whether initiated by mortality or loss, personal or professional challenges, or simply an inner awakening…the mid-life crisis is a period of intense reflection that can have profound affects on a person, and everyone around them.
  • I believe men and women of ALL ages experience this reflection, at least to some degree.
  • I believe some of them are more affected and more prone to action than others, but that all of us question our purpose and our path at some point.
  • I believe this period of reflection can extinguish a person’s inner flame, but I also believe that it can further ignite that flame…into the proverbial inferno.  It is a choice.  And that is what this website is really about.

This website is about my choice, to turn those reflections into the daily fuel necessary, so that I might live my BEST life.

F^&K the “Crisis”.  Welcome to my Mid-Life Analysis.

 

It started as a daily exercise.

On January 2nd, 2017, I sent an email to a small group of friends, asking for their help.  My request was that they stand as witness, to my daily writing ritual.  A simple, daily reflection (delivered via email), aimed not only at absorbing and sharing powerful thoughts and messages, but at giving me an accountability partner (or 20) in order to maintain a more consistent morning ritual.

Throughout 2017, my email list grew to about 50, as people asked me to share these writings.  And along the way, I found myself not only held accountable, but fantastically inspired…by my friends’ comments, questions and own reflections.  It became one of the most fulfilling endeavors of my life.

 

This website contains some of those 200+ articles from 2017, and more are added each week.  Here is what I hope to accomplish:

  • This blog is the re-establishment of my daily writing exercise…one that I got away from in 2018, to the detriment of my personal and professional progress.  I have witnessed the power of personal ritual, I choose to re-engage, and I’m asking you to join my accountability group.  So in some sense, this is a fairly selfish endeavor.
  • These articles are my own reflections, based on an extremely wide range of inputs, but mostly they are centered around some key life principles (at least to me): Gratitude, Happiness, Leadership, Service, Parenting, Perspective and general speaking…Personal Development.

 

I hope that you might read and relate to some of these articles, and that possibly…some of them might move you to your own action. Action that propel you to living your BEST life.

 

We all have our stories.  We all have our circumstances and station in life.  And we all have a CHOICE.

I choose to continue my mid-life reflection; my mid-life analysis.  I choose to share it with anyone who cares to listen.  And I choose to work every single day to become the man I’m capable of becoming.  I hope you’ll join me.